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MENTOR Responsibilities

There are many important responsibilities for you when you become a volunteer mentor at Friends for Life.  As a volunteer, you agree to fulfill the following commitments.

1. Spend a minimum of 1 hour per week for one year with your mentee. Consistent contact is necessary to establish and maintain a meaningful relationship.

 2. Contact your Friends for Life Program Manager every week.  Counseling Contacts occur every week for the first 3 months and every other week thereafter regarding the progress of your friendship.

 3. Visit your mentee’s home during the first 3 months.   A parent or guardian or other adult family member must be present during this and subsequent visits. Your relationship will get off to a smoother start if you have taken the time to meet and learn a little more about your Mentee's family.

 4. Have your mentee, along with his/her parent or guardian, visit your home during the first 3 months. Your mentee will want to meet your family and learn more about you.  Inviting your mentee and his/her family to your home will help the mentee get to know you and begin to feel more comfortable with you.

 5. Contact your mentee’s school during the first 3 months.  Most of the youth in our program are having difficulty with school.  Many are not performing up to their potential, or are experiencing behavior problems due to low self-esteem or lack of strong social skills.

 6.  Contact your mentee’s referral agent during the first 3 months.  Call the personnel who referred the child. This person may provide you with insights into the needs of your mentee.

 7.Bring your mentee to your place of work.  Showing your mentee where you work can expose her/him to new options for future career planning.

 8. Attend at least 2 Friends for Life group activities during the first 3 months of the relationship and 2 more activities in the final 9 months.  Meeting other mentors and mentees is beneficial for both you and your mentee.  Most of our children need to develop social skills.  This is a perfect opportunity for them to interact with other children with your support and guidance. 

 9.Complete a Community Service Project with your mentee. Community Service Projects such as feeding the hungry or cleaning up the beaches can introduce your mentee to the concept of giving back to the community and helping others in need.

10. Attend a Child Abuse Prevention Workshop during the first 3 months of the relationship and 1 more life skills workshop in the final 9 months. Mandatory Child Abuse Prevention Workshops are offered quarterly.  Other life skills workshops covering such topics as gangs and violence prevention are offered periodically.

 11. Attend at least 1 Mentor Support Group Meeting. Meeting with other mentors to share problems and generate ideas is a very valuable experience for you as a mentor.

 12. Allow your mentee to develop the relationship at her/his own pace.  Young people will need time to develop trust and confidence in you before s/he will express feelings to you.  All relationships develop gradually

13. Contact your Program Manager if you have any problems fulfilling your commitment. If it becomes necessary to terminate the match, it is crucial that you cooperate with your counselor on Friends for Life  procedures. Negative effects on the youth can be minimized if the volunteer and Program Manager handle the termination carefully